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Treating women well — today and every day

 


 

Happy Mothers’ Day.

After multiple examples of men who exited the scene because of accusations related to the improper treatment of women, I am thankful that our country has a day when we focus on our moms. It’s a time in our society when we go above and beyond to treat our moms well. Honoring mothers today is a good thing, but let us remember that women — not just mothers — are to be treated well every day of the year. 

Since Harvey Weinstein in October 2017, over 70 famous men have either been fired or forced to resign after accusations of sexual misconduct ranging from inappropriate comments to rape. These include Jerry Richardson of the Carolina Panthers, Donovan McNabb and Eric Davis of ESPN, Trent Franks of Arizona, Ruben Kihuen of Nevada, Al Franken of Minnesota, John Conyers Jr. of Michigan, Garrison Keillor of “A Praire Home Companion,” Matt Lauer of “Today,” Charlie Rose of CBS and Kevin Spacey of “House of Cards.” 

Spacey’s house obviously wasn’t the only one built of cards.

Accusations and resignations not only have taken place in the world of politics, news, sports and entertainment — church leaders like Bill Hybels of Willow Creek and others in my own denomination, the Southern Baptist Convention, have been irresponsible and complicit.

Teenage boys today are not going to learn how to treat women by texting their friends, immersing themselves in the modern subculture of frivolity and immaturity, surfing the web or watching the nonsense that often appears on the flat screen in our living rooms. If our children and grandchildren are going to learn how men should treat women (and for that matter how human beings should treat other human beings), then they must learn by witnessing it modeled by the adults in their lives — dads and moms, teachers and coaches, principals and pastors.

The objectification of women is unacceptable and should never be tolerated.

On days like this, the five boys in my house think particularly about all that mom does every day. We’ll celebrate mom. She will get some special presents. The boys will work hard to make her feel special. She will be honored. Today is her day.

However, Mother’s Day is not about what mom does, but who Mom is

A woman’s value is found not in what she does. Rather her value lies in the fact that she is made in the image of her Creator. 

Sometimes, our family eats off paper plates. During times like this, we are motivated more by convenience than anything else. At other times we eat off real dinner plates — plates that have to be washed, not thrown away. On really, really special occasions, we pull out the fine China that usually stays stored in the cupboard. Over the years, I’ve noticed that the kids’ behavior is different depending on the kind of dinnerware we are using. Dinner plates are handled better and more carefully than paper plates. Fine China is handled even better and more carefully and with additional respect.

In a day when men often treat women like paper plates, we need to model before them not only the significance of dinnerware, but the importance and value of fine China.

Indeed, as it relates to relationships in our country between men and women, this is a sober time. This is an important time.

Dads, take the opportunity of Mother’s Day today and ensure that your kids see the way a man should treat a woman. You might even want to pull out the fine China.

Todd E. Brady is vice president for university ministries at Union University. Write to him at 1050 Union University Drive, Jackson, TN 38305.

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